Breakups are never easy and sometimes the heartache can feel overwhelming. Healing takes time but there are ways to make the process less painful. From self-care to avoiding social media, here are our top tips for surviving a breakup.
1. Stop Contact
Even if only temporarily, cutting off contact gives you time to adjust to life without them. So, delete their number and consider unfriending or blocking them from social media too. If you hope to stay friends with your ex in the longer-term, let them know you just need a short break from contact.
Stopping contact with your ex can be tricky if they are part of your friendship group. Try asking your friends if they can meet up with you separately for a few months.
2. Structure in Self-Care Days
Self-care is always important but it can be especially hard to prioritize when you’re feeling down. Write down a list of things that bring you comfort and plan a day or an evening around them. Maybe you enjoy taking a soak in a bubble bath, curling up in blankets with a book, or enjoying a day-out somewhere new. Whatever your self-care days look like, try to structure in time for them on a regular basis.
3. Take a Social Media Break
Taking a break from social media can be good for your mental health. A 2016 study of over 1000 participants found that time off social media led to higher levels of wellbeing. If you tend to compare yourself to others, a social media break can make a huge difference to your self-esteem.
There are some great apps to help you reduce your social media usage, such as SPACE an app designed to help you achieve a better phone/life balance. Or, you could remove the temptation completely by uninstalling social media apps from your phone.
4. Listen to a Podcast
If you don’t feel like physically being around other people, listening to a podcast is a low-key way of feeling connected. If you want something focused on breaking away from toxic relationships, check out Just Breakup. Or if you fancy something fun and distracting, you might enjoy Ed Gamble and James Acaster’s podcast, Off Menu.
5. Talk to Someone
You don’t have to go through this heartache alone, talking to friends or family can help you process your feelings. This could also be a great time to start attending counselling. Check out Relate Counselling , who offer online counselling for people going through a breakup. Prices vary depending on your circumstances and they can talk through pricing options with you if you give them a call.
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